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Families should stick by one another and support each other throughlifestoughest moments.
But sometimes, the people closest to us can stab us in the back.
This is especially heartbreaking when it happens out of the blue.
She was uncomfortable with herin-lawsfinding out that she had a transgender brother.
She didnt want them to see his top surgery scars.
He initially thought that only hisfamilywould be attending, but he saw that his BILs family was also there.
She said that she did not want his scars to be on display.
The guy told netizens that his scars were from top surgery that he had undergone 4 years back.
He shared that he is atransgenderguy and began his transition 8 years ago.
Since the operation, the scars have faded a lot and are now pretty well hidden under his pecs.
So he felt that his sister was making a mountain out of a molehill because they werent even visible.
The surgery that the poster mentioned is also called adouble mastectomy.
His sister never seemed to have a problem with his scars or him going shirtless before.
She felt that they would view her differently because of it.
The guy felt hurt by his sisters request and didnt want to go along with her charade.
Bored PandainterviewedDara Hoffman, LPC, a subject matter expert on the trans and non-binary experience.
Because its already difficult to be somebody whos trans and navigating the world.
Its so painful to be told that you cannot show up as who you truly are.
In other words, theres something about him thats wrong and different from the normal people at the party.
Daraalso weighed in on the sisters reaction, saying shes projecting her own fears and insecurities onto him.
Whether its a small microaggression or [on a] larger level, it all builds up over time.
It can take an incredible toll on ones mental and emotional wellbeing.
So she is really robbing him of that ability to be able to express himself.
Commenters were glad the mans parents supported him and stood up to his sister.
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