Guests are expected to look nice, of course, but not so nice that it becomes a problem.
Read on to see how the situation spiraledand how she responded.
In the U.S., where this story took place, the sentiment is widely shared.
And it makes sense, after all, this is their special day, their love story being celebrated.
Naturally, they should have the spotlight.
However, not everyone agrees that the idea ofupstaging the bridestill holds weight.
It is a dated concept, wedding planner Illy Elizabeth toldMetro.
In all my years of experience Ive never had a bride be upstaged.
Interestingly, she added that its often not guests, but bridesmaids, who unintentionally add stress.
Its because they are not used to what goes on behind the scenes.
However, its just that the bridesmaid is unaware of what is really going on.
When it comes to fashion, Illy prefers a more relaxed approach.
She notes that many couples today arent too concerned with traditional style rules.
Luxury and celebrity wedding planner Liz Taylor takes a more traditional stance.
In her view, theres still an unspoken rule about respecting the bride through what you wear.
Guests should never venture to upstage the bride, she toldMetro.
That said, Liz also believes in open communication to set expectations clearly.
I prefer it when couples organize a lovely opportunity to talk through what everyone is wearing, she advised.
Do this over cocktails or afternoon tea with the bride and grooms parents, and bridal party in particular.
In the end, choosing what to wear to a wedding shouldnt be a source of stress.
A little courtesy and common sense usually go a long way.
OPs story may have taken a dramatic turn, but thankfully, moments like that are rare.
Most guests just want to celebrate lovenot compete with it.
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