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A disabilitydoesnt have to be a death sentence.
In fact, one in four Americanssaythey live with some form of disability.
However, not everyone is able to cope with it the same.
Some people fall into a deep depression, and not even their loved ones can help them.
This young woman found herself at a crossroads after her boyfriend became paralyzed from the waist down.
Not being able to take hisabusive behavioranymore, shes now thinking about breaking up.
Except shes not sure how to deal with the guilt.
So, sheaskedfor some relationship advice online.
In some ways, a partner acquiring a disability can be the ultimate test for a couple.
Some couples manage to stay connected and communicate about their needs, maybe even making their relationships stronger.
Others, unfortunately, might have one partner shutting down, as happened in this case.
The partner faces a lot of questions: who will take care of the person after the breakup?
Can we stay connected without being a couple?
Will they understandwhyIm doing this?
But isnt breaking up with somebody because of their disability morally wrong?, you may ask.
Well, staying because of it would be even worse.
Relationships sustain because of what you are as a human being,Sexuality and Disabilityclaims.
Staying with someone because theyre disabled reduces them to their disability, and thats just plainly not true.
Ultimately, no one should stay in a relationship that is bad for them.
But that couldnt be farther from the truth.
While dating a disabled person certainly comes with its challenges, there are many happy differently-abledcouples.
The secrets to a successful inter-abled relationship are mostly the same as with any other regular couple.
However, there is one thing he emphasizes: being honest about the disability.
Or, rather, the difference between the one who has a disability and the one who doesnt.
One mistake people often make, according to Mattlin, is to blame all their misfortunes on the disability.
That includes unnecessary obstacles and societys unfairness.
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