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The online space is full of discourse about setting boundaries for bettermentalwell-being.
The primary misunderstanding about boundaries is that they are solely for protecting the person who creates them.
In reality, we create boundaries so you can develop better relationships.
To put it simply, life is interactive.
Relational, explains licensed marriage and family therapistRachel Astarte.
Therefore, if we want our boundaries to be honored, we must consider the other person.
Thats what makes a boundary healthy.
A boundary should be set when personal space and energy are infringed.
Boundaries allow us to be at our best, most present selves when interacting with others.
Heres the boundaries mantra I teach my clients and students: My boundaries benefit both of us.
Ironically, this is usually the opposite of what the person intends.
Most people set boundaries because they want to preserve and strengthen a connection, not end it.
True boundaries are rooted in respect and mutual understanding, not control.
Use this helpful boundary mantra: My boundaries benefit both of us.
Externally: Choose the right time.
Speak clearly and calmly.
Keep yourself grounded as you speak (Breathe!).
Use I-statements/caring + loving language.
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