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Single parents and their children always seem to have a completely unique connection.
They often tend to interact with each other differently than mostparentsand kids do.
So, if a new partner wants to enter a nuclear family setting, it can feel slightly challenging.
This is what a woman felt five years into herrelationshipwith her partner.
Within the first year of moving in with him, she began to feel suffocated by his childs presence.
To her, it almost felt like he was trying to be a third person in their relationship.
Instead, understand what it is that you value, and honor that.
Dont force yourself into a situation that isnt for you.
Heather explained that when it comes to dating someone with kids, you should Be patient!
Its natural to feel a little awkward or nervous when you first meet your partners child.
Youre not a bad person if you say no!
This made her uncomfortable because she didnt want to take up such a role so soon.
She felt things were better when he was treating her like a regular adult.
Heather Hopsonshared that The level of responsibility you have dating someone is different than when you marry someone.
Be sure to have an open and honest conversation with your partner to set expectations and boundaries.
Dont just jump into discipline or make decisions about the child.
Also, dont take everything personally.
Remember, you are not this childs parent.
It is not your job to set or enforce rules with someone elses children.
Nonetheless, all parties should feel respected and included when appropriate.
Talk to your partner about your expectations, and remember, children are not baggage!
They are a bonus.
They can expand the capacity to love,Heathershared.
She also seemed to exclude him in certain situations, like during mealtimes or their conversations.
I also want you to work a lot on assessing if this is the right relationship/family dynamic for you.
Work with your partner to solve for that.
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