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Navigating the wild world ofonline datingisnt easy.
Like, God, man.
Best of luck to you.
And, like you, you elicit an emotional response from me.
So if you just wanted to end it all with one message, like, fair enough.
All the good bits over.
And also, big red flag is you talking about ADHD right from the get-go.
And its not that interesting.
Im have ADHD, I dont use it as an excuse.
So anyway, Tara, I figured Im already on your [black] list anyway.
But youre not going to turn around and say, so I dont find you physically attractive.
But hey, I wasnt exactly blown away by you, myself.
But I was willing to just give it a go.
Because I just liked your personality.
But its just inferior that I knew you were feeling this way.
You didnt just come out with it.
Like, no one just comes out with that.
You gave me no respect.
Its back to reality tomorrow.
Just dont fancy him anymore.
And yet, you dont owe me any explanation.
You dont owe me any of these things.
And maybe thats unfair of me to say that outright.
You know, Im giving you the voice notes.
Im just giving you the raw stuff.
I am thoroughly, thoroughly not interested in seeing you whatsoever.
I just, yeah, just bye.
I just dont buy it.
Or I do not take back what Im saying.
Go get some accountability.
It is common for people to take rejection as a personal attack.
I think this especially occurs if a person values external validation more highly than internal validation.
Rejection acts as a piece of evidence that influences their unhelpful thoughts about themselves, which is unfortunate.
She also warned that reacting like the man in this story did is 100% a red flag.
I think the issue with rejection is entitlement, the expert noted.
It begins in childhood, when kids are conditioned to not accept no for an answer.
A way to fix this mess is to simply say no to your kids sometimes.
Let them know that they are able to say no as well.
Also, provide reassurance when they are told no.
Being told no does not mean you are not valuable or inferior.
But we have to remember not to let those worries stop us from taking any action.
If both parties arent on the same page, theres no need to even desire a relationship with them.
Its also wise not to take rejection personally, Lloyd recommends, asyourenot being rejected as much as therelationshipis.
That doesnt mean that theres anything wrong with you as a person.
First, they recommend taking a beat in between relationships to pick yourself back up.
Take some time to do some self reflection as well.
What can you learn from this experience?
How can you use this knowledge to help you in futurerelationships?
You are not any less deserving of love, especially from yourself.
And try not to compare yourself to others either.
Finally, CNBC suggests that you surround yourself with people who do make you feel valued after experiencing rejection.
Dont stop enjoying life just because a fewrelationshipsdidnt work out.
