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Whether or not you change your name after gettingmarriedis a personal decision.
Some folks love the idea of taking their spouses surname.
Others join both last names with a handy hyphen.
But what do you do if youve changed your last name and nowyouve gottendivorced?
Redditor u/ThrowRAHappyLiving recently went viral on the r/AITAH online group afteropening upabout a very delicate situation.
So, it seems unfair to suddenly demand someone make the change.
Having the same last name is only a problem if you let it become one.
Its a respectful thing to do, and it shows a willingness to compromise, no matter the decision.
However, once the decision is made, thats pretty much that.
Its incredibly messy to demand your ex to change their surname back after years and years have passed.
It only creates unnecessary drama and is going to hurt a lot of feelings.
Amicable divorces are certainly possible, but they require a lot of effort from both spouses.
Divorces are very emotionally charged in and of themselves.
As weve covered onBored Pandaearlier, its vital for the couple tocommunicatewithout blaming each other.
Another important factor is to avoid using ones children as pawns in the divorce.
Creating clear boundaries is another important aspect of the process.
Just because youre parting ways doesnt mean everything has to be a battleground.
Lastly, consider seeking help from a counselor or mediator.
You dont have to do it alone, they said.
Furthermore, establish strong support networks among friends, family, or support groups who have experienced similar situations.
Remember, its okay to ask for help, lean on others, and accept their care.
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