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A partners infidelity is never an easy thing to go through.
But it can be infinitely worse when its your sibling they have anaffairwith.
Unfortunately, thats what happened tothis redditor.
But the latter wasnt keen on helping her out for obvious reasons.
She did, however, wonder if that made her a jerk.
Suzanne Degges-Whiteand a board-certified clinical psychologist and author of theLetting Go of Your Ex,Dr.
Without trust, the bond between two people cannot hold fast, she said.
It can be a blow from which a partner and a relationship cannot recover.
This can cause ripples of ill will to flow throughout the family.
But is it always best to forgive or help someone just because theyre family?
Forgiveness is about letting go of resentment and anger you hold for someone, she continued.
Forgiveness is more about self-healing, rather than making someone else feel better.
I would argue that forgiveness is actually always the goal, she told Bored Panda.
Contrary to how many people think, forgiveness is not about accepting or approving of your cheating partners behavior.
It is about freeing yourself from being weighed down by your partners actions even very unethical ones.
Whether you choose to stay with your mate or with your friend or sibling is a very different question.
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