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Going behind your spouses back is a form of betrayal, regardless of how significant the matter is.
It can cause cracks in therelationshipthat may destroy its foundation to irreparability.
He did it without her knowing and then put himself in deeper trouble by lying about it when caught.
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Chicago-based licensed clinical social worker and therapistJennifer Klesmandefines it as any behavior that may indicate future incompatibility.
As she toldTODAYin an interview, these issues can be the catalyst for a breakup.
Holly Schiffsays being secretive is a relationship red flag to look out for.
Doing something behind a spouses back may also mean the marriage lacks maturity.
The storys author feltbetrayedtwice by her spouse.
Not only did he go against their agreement, but he also lied to her when he got caught.
Her frustrations and desire to end their marriage because she no longer trusts him are understandable.
If this is something she intends to do, she must find it in herself to forgive her husband.
Lira de la RosatoldSELFin an interview, ruminating about a betrayal is normal.
However, dwelling on it too much can only deepen the wounds and hinder both parties from moving forward.
Dr. De La Rosa adds that the next goal must be strengthening the relationship.
He suggests activities like date nights or regular check-ins to address lingering issues.
Regaining someones trust takes time.
As licensed marriage and family therapistAngie Sadhupointed out, its not a linear process.
Sadhu suggests avoiding the helicopter approach, like snooping on a partners phone oraccessing their social mediaaccounts.
She instead advises looking into compromises that would work for both.
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