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Moving in with your partner is a big step in anyrelationship.
Its the merging of two lives into one household.
And so, before making this huge step, people should think if they want that.
But sometimes even that cant prepare for what its actually like to live together.
This couple is an embodiment of that.
Apparently, having a man in her space wasnt something she wanted.
He left her with three children a son and two daughters.
Now, the woman has been dating a new man for around 2.5 years.
Six months ago, they started discussing the idea of them living together.
Some arguethat a couple should date for a time before moving in together.
For instance, 18 months or so.
During this time, thehoneymoon phaseshould wear off and people will see each other for what they actually are.
Only there was one issue.
The man lived 100 miles away.
The woman couldnt do so, as her childrens lives were where they lived.
He deemed this relationship worth it, and he moved in.
Thats where the trouble started.
Every little thing about her boyfriend started annoying the woman.
In fact, not simply annoying, but enraging her.
The OP started feeling claustrophobic in her own home, feeling like she had no place to relax.
Additionally, while she works night shifts, he works during the day.
And so, while shesleeps, he works, and when she wakes up, hes back from work.
This leaves her with no time for herself.
Not even in her bedroom, which used to be her quiet space from her teenagers.
Besides, since moving in, he never at least tried to tidy the home.
Plus, he didnt even pay the rent when he was supposed to.
And his stuff is everywhere, just adding to the claustrophobic feeling.
All of it is making the woman irrationally angry hes like someone who invaded her home.
This stumped both the teen and her mom.
They had agreed beforehand he wouldnt do that and his disregard was shocking.
Teresha said the discussions about parenting roles and blended family dynamics are important before moving in.
So, with everything added, the woman thinks she made a huge mistake.
He left everything behind to live with her, but now its not working out.
If that isnt done, it can snowball, which can doom the relationship.
Yet, it doesnt seem that the woman communicated it with her boyfriend.
Writing down your feelings can help to lower blood pressure, improve sleep, and lower stress levels.
Plus, when you do that online, you get advice from netizens.
This vent is no different.
They said that the woman should communicate all her feelings with her boyfriend.
Maybe they thought they were ready to live together but actually werent.
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