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Having goodmannersis something any fully functioning human should have, starting from their childhood.
Sadly, some parents go too far when trying to ensure their children have them.
During this party, the boys cousin started showing him something on his phone.
It should be noted that none of the authors kids, including the birthday boy, own phones.
Birthday parties at restaurants are no exception.
Thats how bonds are built and strengthened.
Addressing the impact means considering the reasons why a child might resist the rule.
Then, its important to brainstorm how to solve this resistance by coming up with alternative solutions.
When she did that,instead of her son reacting to this order, his cousin did.
He responded that he let the boy use the phone and called the woman autocratic.
Well, we couldnt find anything about autocratic parenting, but we did for anauthoritarianstyle.
The kids proceed to follow these rules knowing that if they dont, there will be consequences.
So, maybe the cousin had this in mind when he called the woman autocratic.
Either way, we dont know her well enough to speculate about her parenting style.
Still, the woman was taken aback by this accusation.
Our interviewee shared some advice on how parents should address such influence from family members.
Soon after, something else happened that infuriated her even more.
It was due to her father-in-law, who joined in on the debate.
Basically, he said that everyone should shut up and enjoy themeal, especially the birthday boy.
This vexed the woman even further.
From that point on, the whole party seemed awkward to her.
So, she came on Mumsnet to vent about it and probably to get some supportive words.
Instead, people in the forum werent as nice as she probably expected.
Many of them thought that the woman was overreacting to the whole situation.
Overall, the mom was dubbed fussy, over-the-top, and insufferable.
Well, at least she got her father-in-laws promise to think about apologizing for telling her to shut up.
Still, shes planning to put distance between herself and her husbands parents, because of that aforementioned history.
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