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Everyone has had a crush on someone at least once in theirlife.
Some lucky people end up dating their crush, and for others, the desire eventually fades.
But what if a person holds on to thefeelingsfor too long, like, lets say, 20 years?
What she found out left her shocked.
Social media makes it incredibly easy to find out what an old friend or crush is up to.
In her case, maybe the idea of her husband finding out kept her from further cyberstalking the man.
But not everyone can keep this behavior in check.
Some people becomeobsessiveand go to great lengths to social-media stalk their exes.
To better understand this situation,Bored Pandacontacted Lee Wilson.
He said it wasnt and that, you are not allowing yourself to heal and move forward.
Youre staying stuck in a cycle of obsession, which is emotionally and psychologically damaging.
Stalking your ex online keeps the breakup fresh in your mind and prevents you from detaching and finding closure.
She also decided to hide her actions from her husband because she felt he would get angry.
It can work on your mind and cause less closeness in the current relationship ormarriage.
It could also have to do with a fear ofabandonment.
We asked Lee if he had ever come across cases like this in his professional experience.
The behavior is also driven by a need for reassurance.
Its a way to feel in control in a situation where they feelpowerless.
Unfortunately, this only prolongs the pain and makes it harder to heal, he shared.
Admittedly, curiosity can get the better of us when we suddenly remember a crush or an old flame.
But that fun pastime backfired as soon as she found out that hes living nearby.
We think thats pretty good advice, dont you?
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