In fact, 60% of womensaythat their relationship with their mother-in-law causes them unhappiness.
But this woman had previous experience of her MIL making it all about her.
Knowing that this is far from ideal, the woman decidedto seeksome advice online.
Seems like he will always have his priority be his mom.
Cases where adult children are in dysfunctional relationships with their parents are often referred to as enmeshed relationships.
Enmeshed family relationships generally are those wherefamily membersbecome codependent.
Mother-son enmeshment usually happens because of the moms unmet needs, anxiety, or the sons difficulty with independence.
Kristie Plantinga, MA,writesthat this isnt anybodys fault.
Its a dynamic that develops over time, she claims.
With time and effort, individuals can create healthier boundaries and a more balanced relationship.
Open communication and shared activities are important in any healthy relationship, she writes.
The same goes for supporting one another and having each others back.
According to Plantinga, its okay as long as its not one-sided and controlling.
Deep emotional connection also doesnt always equal enmeshment.
Lending a helping hand is also normal in healthy family relationships.
Occasional assistance strengthens family bonds, according to Plantinga.
Moving away from an enmeshed relationship can be a hard and long process.
First, its important to recognize the problem.
Manyadult childrenin enmeshed relationships dont realize theyre in one.
Its important to do some self-reflection and recognize your behavioral patterns.
Then, its time to set some boundaries.
Its always good to have a mediator present when this conversation happens, amental healthprofessional, preferably.
In extreme cases, when the other individual doesnt want to change, experts even recommend ending the relationship.
Check out the results:
