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A healthy relationship is one in which both people retain their independence while still being connected.
Things start to go wrong when one person tries to takecontrolof the other and micromanage everything theyre doing.
It encroaches on their independence and can make their partner feel suffocated.
A woman shared her experience in an unbalanced relationship where hergirlfriendseemed to be trying to control her every move.
This constant attention and overcare forced her to seek advice from others.
Her practice offers individual and couples therapy with an emphasis on trauma recovery and LGBT+ affirmative care.
They can respond to requests for space or autonomy with extreme attempts to keep their partner engaged.
This often launches a frustrating pursuer/distancer dynamic.
Both people dig their heels in and no one ends uphappy.
Neither partner is wrong, but theyre also never going to agree, she added.
Mutually agreeing on schedules of closeness and distance is important.
Its possible that hersmotheringbehavior resulted from feelings of anxiety and a need for constant reassurance.
Its not intentional, and it can be unlearned over time.
She believed that the posters girlfriend has an insecure attachment style.
Linda shared a few examples of how theinsecure attachmentstyle could manifest.
She mentioned that self-esteem and a view of oneself as loveable or unloveable may also be at play here.
Its important for couples to realize each others attachment styles and work on communicating better.
Linda mentioned a fewcounselingstrategies she would use to help both parties in this relationship.
Wed practice assertive ways of communicating each persons needs.
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