Internet user u/Cat_Own went viral online after venting about her supposed friend to the AITAH onlinecommunity.
Scroll down for thefull story, as well as a very importantupdate.
Read on for our full interview with the author, including her perspective on what real friendship entails.
True pals care about you beyond just the favors you could do for them.
Since I went no-contact we didnt talkuntil a few months ago.
Out of the blue, I received an email from her.
She wrote to tell me that shed seen my Reddit post and accused me of ruining her reputation.
Honestly, I wasnt surprised.
Not once did she take accountability for her actions or acknowledge the hurt she caused, u/Cat_Own said.
Instead, she doubled down, making herself the victim in the situation.
If youre considering going no-contact with someone, my advice is to be prepared for unexpected twists like this.
Cutting ties is rarely clean or simple, especially when emotions run high.
But dont let guilt or manipulation pull you back into an unhealthy dynamic.
It was like a patternone I hadnt fully realized until now.
If theres anything Ive learned from this, its the importance of paying attention to patterns inrelationships.
To anyone reading this: you deserve relationships where respect and kindness are mutual, not transactional.
The author was also kind enough to share what she personally values the most in friendships.
For me, the most valuable aspect of friendship is trust.
Theyre someone who makes you feel safe and understood, even during your most vulnerable moments.
The average wedding can set you back tens of thousands of dollars.
Hometown weddings set you back around $33.3k in 2023.
However, destination weddings were far pricier.
Average domestic destination weddings cost $43.3k while international destination weddings came in slightly cheaper at around $42k.
However, these costs only cover the ceremony and reception.
Engagement rings, which cost an average of $5.5k, are not included in these numbers.
A core reason why costs have skyrocketed is because the wedding industrys goods and services are simply pricier.
Inflation has affected most parts of life.
There are scientific, factual reasons why theyre useful, too.
It really does matter whom you spend time with.
You have to consistently put the effort into maintaining and strengthening those bonds.
It also means taking a harder look at the people who surround you.
Do your friends celebrate your wins and have your back during tough times?
Do they help you when you need a hand or do they only ever ask for favors from you?
Do they practice what they preach?
Do they follow through with their promises or are they generally unreliable?
Are they willing to make sacrifices for you just like you are for them?
These are all tough questions to answer.
Its easy to promise your friends, relatives, and colleagues something.
Its another thing entirely to follow through with your promise.
Broadly speaking, organizing a wedding and sticking to a budget is tough.
The costs can quickly add up.
The decor, food, drinks, band, venue, clothes, etc.
all cost a pretty penny.
Even small details that you want to change can cost you more than you initially intended to pay.
On the plus side, it’s possible for you to always scale back.
Being less picky about things typically means youll shell out less cash.
Its just not good taste to uninvite someone youre on good terms with if they havent done anything wrong.
Turning your would-be guests into piggy banks is not something a good friend does.
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