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We have another story about a disagreement between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law for you today, pandas.

Although those are never scarce, this one has an interesting twist.

This daughter-in-law didnt feel comfortable with that, so she suggested a couple of alternatives to that situation.

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RedditorReadyPreparation5472went to get the opinion of netizens on the AITAH subreddit.

She wanted to know whether her ultimatum to her husband was appropriate or veered into AH territory.

If youre intrigued, read the entire story below!

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Bored Pandareached out to Becca Maberly who is a South West London-based pregnancy and post-natal expert.

Shes also the author ofNobody Tells You: 100 Truths about Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond.

Worrying about other peoples demands shouldnt be one of them.

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Pregnancy and post-natal expert Becca Maberly says that the final months of a pregnancy can be especially stressful.

Maberly says that already a lot of things are out of the pregnant mothers hands during birth.

Thats why its so important for the mother to feel that she can at least control some things.

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

That can include things like where she is giving birth and whether she wants skin-to-skin contact with the baby.

Who is present in the delivery room is one of those decisions the mother should be able to make.

Many women choose to just have their partners at their birth, Maberly observes.

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Some choose an alternative or additional birth partner, perhaps a friend or relative.

How to let your mother-in-law know shes not welcome in the delivery room?

The pregnant mother can also offer the MIL a carrot.

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

For mothers who are unafraid of being a little sneaky, Maberly has an alternative suggestion.

That would probably include just the husband, so no MIL in the delivery room!

What if your husband is pressuring you to give in to the mother-in-laws demands?

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

But our expert says that the mother-to-be should put herself first.

This may compromise the release of oxytocin which may in turn lead to a longer birth.

Surely, he doesnt want to be in the hospital any longer than he has to be?

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Maberly offers one more strategy for pregnant women to use to persuade their husbands.

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid

Woman Finds A Clever Way To Shut Down MIL Who Insists To Be Present At The Birth Of Her Grandkid