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At one point in our lives, many of us have tried to be someone were not.
This womantried to impress a guy she liked by pretending to enjoy hiking.
The same thing happens when you pretend to be someone you are not.
Bruce Wilsonexplains, mere pretending has some mechanism of control.
However, pretending for long enough can gradually evolve into self-deception, which also involves distorting the truth.
The lying is no longer perceived as lying because the truth has been hijacked.
In the storys case, the womans feigned enjoyment of hiking turned into her reality.
While the womans lie isnt severe enough to cause damage, it brings her more of a burden.
However, she isnt planning on coming clean anytime soon, at least based on her post.
But according to California-based therapistDr.
Kurt Smith, telling the truth may actually help the relationship.
Given the jam she is in, the author may be finding it challenging to begin telling the truth.
In such cases, marriage and family therapistDr.
Sheri Meyerssuggests doing the Oreo method.
In a nutshell, this approach involves taking responsibility for wrongdoing to initiate the conversation.
It then concludes with a promise to focus on improvement.
Close with love, Dr. Meyers said.
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