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Picture this: youve been planning your dreamvacationwith your friends for over a year.
Youve got your suitcase packed, beach outfits ready, and everyone is excited for the adventure.
But then, something comes up that could mess up all your fun.
Thats the tough spot one woman onRedditfound herself in.
Despite knowing her travel dates, he expected her to cancel and stay home to care for him.
She decided to go anyway, leaving hisfamilyfurious.
Keep reading to see how it all played out.
But in modernmarriages, what that looks like can vary.
Bored Pandareached out to relationship therapist and couples counselorElinor Harveyto hear her thoughts on this.
Harvey believed the wife handled things quite well overall.
Plus, she made sure his mother was there to help him during recovery, she pointed out.
In the end, the responsibility for picking that date was his.
Shes not a mind reader!
Still, Harvey acknowledged that the husbands sense of hurt or abandonment was valid.
However, the accountability for communicating those feelings lands on him, unfortunately.
And being angry at her is unlikely to make anything better.
When the couple was deciding on the surgery date, a better discussion could have helped.
Obviously, they both matter, said Harvey.
But it sounds like the pair didnt fully explore each others needs.
Communication problems, in fact, are atop reason for divorce, according to a survey by Your Tango.
This slows things down and stops couples from getting intoback-and-forth arguments, focusing onunderstandingrather thanwinning, she explains.
Communicating clearly and being able to express specific needs is a great way to help resolve rifts like this.
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