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But it gets infinitely worse when the negative things come from a loved ones mouth.

Criticism should never come from a place of shame or superiority, says relationship intelligence expert, Railey Molinario.

Intentional, kind communication builds trust rather than breaking it.

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In a recent interview withBored Panda, the expert noted that a partners opinion carries a lot of weight.

In a thriving relationship, we want to be seen with love.

Our partners words shape how we see ourselves.

Couple sitting apart on bed; girlfriend looks upset, highlighting relationship tension.

In these tiny moments, ensure youre checking your words for critical injury potential.

Some phrases are extremely difficult to remedy after theyve landed.

According to Eldemire, its damaging and disrespectful, and can erode onesself-esteem.

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Comparison is a subtle form of rejection, Molinario explained.

When we compare our partner to someone else, it suggests that theyre falling short.

This can trigger feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, or even shame.

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It damages how emotionally safe they feel in the relationship.

Healthy love is rooted in appreciation, not comparison.

Many people, no matter the gender, dress in a way that makes them feel confident and comfortable.

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The relationship expert emphasized that words are a powerful thing.

What we sayand how we say itmatters.

A truly thriving relationship is one where both people feel celebrated, supported, and safe being fully themselves.

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That begins with conscious, compassionate communication.

People didnt keep their opinions to themselves, several called the OP an idiot

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Woman Can’t Get Over Partner’s Insult, He Goes Online For Advice But Gets A Reality Check

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