After the two got into a fight about it, the new mom went to look for support online.

Pregnancy and postpartum psychologist Dr. Caroline Dickens tells Bored Panda that partners also have a role here.

But focusing on weight loss as the goal of doing so is unlikely to be healthy or helpful.

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A partner should support a postpartum mom with making sure she gets rest.

If the mom doesnt explicitly ask her partner for weight loss help, they shouldnt push for it.

There is societal pressure for women to bounce back after giving birth.

Person standing on a scale, focusing on fitness goals postpartum, highlighting gym commitment.

In reality, its not fair to ask women to evaluate their postpartum bodies against their pre-pregnancy bodies.

But, after giving birth, they may not be accessible.

This allows for more positive, holistic, and sustainable changes to health-related behaviors, Dr. Dickens notes.

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