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When youre immersed in something youre passionate about, everything else in the world can seem to disappear.
But its probably wise to keep one foot rooted in reality, just in case anybody needs you.
According to therapist Jaime Bronstein, having individual hobbies and passions can create space for excitement in a relationship.
Having time apart and doing things separately can also help couples appreciate their time together more.
This space will also keep you two from getting sick of each other.
Plus, having individual hobbies can allow you to learn from one another.
First, we asked the expert about couples having their own separate hobbies.
Rebecca says that healthy relationships have a combination of connection and togetherness and autonomy and independence.
Thats just not real and too much to expect of any one person.
It is perfectly okay for our romantic partners to not share all of our hobbies or interests.
We were also curious about the expectation to check-in with your partner, even if youre both at home.
This fall down the stairs brought the OP to an awareness of their vulnerability.
Id first ask him to explore what he heard in the request to check on his partner.
The defensiveness might be coming from something said, implied, or feared, she noted.
Then we can check out with the spouse if those implications or fears are real.
His defensive response makes sense if hes being criticized.
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