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There are some things that are so ingrained in our cultures that we never question them.

But is this really necessary?

ThePew Research Centerreports that a whopping 79% of married women in the US took their husbands last name.

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They see their mother doing it, their grandmothers it is just normal.

Theweddingexpert says another common reason women change their surnames is when they have children together before getting married.

I once had customs interviewing my children, as their passports had different surnames to mine.

Woman discussing reasons not to take husband’s last name, with subtitles explaining her viewpoint.

They will be keen to change it!

Of course, it’s possible for you to merge both names to create a double-barreled surname.

But for this to work, the husband needs to change his, the wedding expert shared.

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And funnily enough, he is not always open to that.

Many also feel a double-barreled name sounds a bit posh, which feels wrong to them.

So what are some of the pros of keeping your maiden name after getting married?

Text discussing tradition of women taking husband’s last name; highlights 79% in U.S. do so, 5% hyphenate.

Keep a sense of identity women can feel a bit lost after getting married, Kate says.

Continue your family name great if you have a strong family bond.

Easier for work and business, as people know who you are.

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On the flip side, however, some people see more benefits in taking their partners name.

If you have children, it is definitely easier to all have the same name.

Society expects you to have the same name.

Pie chart of women’s choices on keeping maiden names: 79% took spouse’s name, 14% kept maiden name, 5% hyphenated.

Have a clear reason why, but also other options to hand.

Some couples now make up a whole new name, merging the two.

There is no right answer here you will know deep down if you look forward to taking their name.

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Check out the results:

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