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Being aparentcan be rewarding and fun.
But also frustrating as hell.
If you have kids, you might be familiar with that annoying trait many of them have.
Its called not listening.
And the struggle is real.
And yet again the following day.
According to her, with toddlers, speak like Yoda, you must.
Basically, the mom believes that positive speech can help you out of a negative cycle.
Smith is the founder ofThe Peaceful Parentand was more than happy to chat with us.
So we reached out toparentingexpert Lisa Smith.
If you say No running!
Instead of no, Smith suggests trying phrases like:
Lets walk instead.
This focuses on the action you do want, not the one you want them to stop.
Lets try it this way still holds aboundarybut keeps the connection.
And I cant let you hit your brother.
Lets figure out why youre upset sets a limit but opens up emotional processing.
Boundary-pushing is often about control and emotional safety, Smith told Bored Panda.
or Can I trust you to hold the boundary without getting angry at me?
Its beginning to feel like a no-win situation.
But the expert assures us its not.
The key is to get curious, not furious.
The expert says you should first check in with yourself.
Are you tired, stressed, or emotionally drained?
That energy can spill over to your child, she warns.Next, attempt to connect before you direct.
Kids are more likely to cooperate when they feel heard and emotionally safe, Smith told Bored Panda.
Whats going on?Smith says cooperation comes when kids feel respected and seen.
Not when they feel controlled.
It should come as no surprise that Smith is a firm believer in gentleparenting.
Its not about being permissiveits about setting firm but compassionate boundaries while helping kids understand and regulate their emotions.
Instead of punishment, Smith tells us that peaceful parenting focuses on teaching and guiding.
But does it really work?
Were curious to know…
Yes, says Smith.
The goal isnt perfect behavior, its building a relationship where both parent and child feel respected and heard.
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