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They say theres no good deed that goes unpunished, and sometimes, thats basically an understatement.
Some people just have a special talent for stretching others generosity to the limit.
Thats our Redditors sister, who expects our guy to drop his plans every time she needs a babysitter.
But, after one last-minute cancelation, hes not sticking around for round 2.
Not a hint of an apology, just a breezy Well do it another time.
Oh, the nerve!
I dont know about you, but Id be annoyed at this point.
And he didnt shy away from letting her know.
But then, two days later, his phone rings.
Sisters plans hit a snag, and she needs that favor again.
Only now, our OPs had enough.
He politely declines, telling sis he wont be available that weekend.
Boundaries arent just reserved for exes or annoying co-workers; theyre pretty important in family dynamics too.
She explained that the goal isnt to eliminate guilt entirely, but rather to become comfortable with experiencing it.
We must remember that guilt is a normal human emotion and that we are strong enough to tolerate it.
We also asked what could be effective ways to reinforce boundaries when theyre not respected initially.
Dr. Glied suggested that repetition is key.
A helpful tactic is the broken record technique, in which you calmly and consistently restate your boundary.
Its no secret that kindness makes us feel good.
Its like free therapy, with zero waiting lists and Im all for it.
So, next time sis dearest needs ababysitter, maybe shell think twice before canceling on her brother.
And if she doesnt?
Well, Uncle OP can always just enjoy his weekends, hassle-free.
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