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The truthno matter howhurtfulis always preferable to lies.
But that still doesnt take the sting out of it.
Learning the truth about the peopleclosestto you’re able to shake the very foundations of your life.
Scroll down to read the full story, an importantupdate, and see how the internet supported the author.
The Reddit community has been wonderful and supportive.
Honestly, they have helped me like a mini therapy session, u/ThrowRA_notcool1 opened up to Bored Panda.
However, there were none.
There werent any red flags at all that I noticed.
I asked my friend if she noticed something that I missed and she didnt either, the author shared.
I have no idea.
I hope I can be strong enough later on but not sure when that would be, she said.
Im still a mess and trying to figure things out.
Learning that your (seemingly) trustworthy partner was unfaithful to you is enough to shatter your world.
Finding out that they slept with your own mother is worse.
She would not have felt like shed wasted years of her life living a lie.
Peoplecheatfor very different reasons, but theyre often related either to their unmetneedsor deep personal insecurities.
Alternatively, the cheater might have very little empathy for the people in their lives.
Or theyre very short-sighted and might not care about the consequences of their actions, whatever they might be.
Other individuals areunfaithfulbecause their current partners dont meet their emotional or physical needs.
Everything depends on a lot of factors.
Its really important not to look for excuses or other people/factors to blame for the affair.
Openness, honesty, responsibility, andtransparencywithout them, there can be no trust in the future.
That being said, nobody should feel forced to forgive their partners infidelity.
Whether or not forgiveness happens is a personal decision.
Its natural to feel anger, grief, sadness, disappointment, and even fear after what happened.
Those feelings shouldnt be repressed.
), but they guide us and help reframe our experiences to heal and empower us.
Denying your feelings is an extreme response to trauma.
According to Gilbert, a common response is to replay the traumatic event in our minds.
It will just keep you stuck in a never-ending rerun of the event that traumatized you.
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