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Its no secret that womenexperiencesome things that men cant understand during their lives.

Even special occasions such as birthdays and Mothers Day arent a safe time for that.

They still have to deal with it.

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And men still dont believe women when they say they want to do only nothing.

I want to do absolutely nothing.

Thats all I want for my birthday.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

And typically, theyre saying that because they are tapped out.

Theyve been planning, and doing, and coordinating everything for everybody.

And this is what happens.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

They say I dont want to do anything.

Can you just take the reins, and you run [it] from here?

And the husband will go Sure, of course, babe.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

So, what do you think, do you want a massage, or do you want dinner?

And if dinner, I dont care where we go.

Im gonna book a reservation.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Like I was thinking this place or this place?

Which one do you want?

And if you want a massage, can you send me the link?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Because I forgot where you like to go.

And yeah, what do you want for your birthday?

Oh, you want?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Image credits:@sheisapaigeturner

I need the link so I can buy it.

So, do you mind sending me what you want?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Ill buy that for you.

And who do you think should watch the kids?

I mean I could call a babysitter, but I dont have the numbers.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Can you give me their numbers?

And maybe Ill call my parents?

What do you think I should do?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Do you mind calling my parents, and you might talk to them?

And do we have anything on that day?

What day do you want to do it, by the way?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Do you wanna do it on your birthday?

Or do you want to do it on Sunday?

Or like [is] a Saturday easier?

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Are you taking a day off from work?

What day do you want to do it?'

And the woman is sitting there going: All I said I want to do is nothing.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

I wanna plan nothing.

I wanna do nothing.

And now youre asking me to plan it.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Youre asking me to tell you what to buy me.

Youre asking me to tell you what day to do.

Youre asking me for the babysitters number.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Youre asking me what restaurant I want to go to.

Youre asking me if I want a massage, and [to] send you the link.'

I want to have to not think about it.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

And I was thinking that maybe, [for] one day, I could have that.

But no, I had to tell you all the things.

This happens to women all the time.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

And men will say, Oh my god, just tell me what you want.

And they say, I am telling you what I want.

I want to do nothing.'

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

And I think the problem is men arent hearing it because they dont understand what nothing means.

We mean we truly want to do nothing.

We want to think about nothing [and] plan nothing.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

I dont even care where we go to dinner.

And Im lucky because I have that kind of husband, but not everybody does.

Themental load(or cognitive labor) is the so-called invisible task of running the household.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Typically, these tasks fall onwomens shoulders, just as the TikToker implied in her video.

Basically, the mental load is the act of overseeing various tasks in the household.

This throw in of labor drains women and is quite often taken for granted.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

They just want to rest and not be responsible for anything.

This video was posted by the TikTok user@Sheisapaigeturneror simply Paige.

She describes herself as a working mom of 4, shedding light on the mental load of motherhood.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

Her videos are focused on these topics.

With them, she has garnered 113K followers and over 5M likes.

Image credits:Ami Suhzu (not the actual photo)

Bored Pandareached out to Paige.

This Woman Explained What Kind Of Mental Load Women Have To Deal With On Their Birthdays

She agreed to provide more information about her video.

And so this inspired her to create the content that she now does.

I also think it is important to communicate needs as they relate to that work.

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