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Restaurants can be overwhelming, especially for ahighly sensitive person.
They tend to process everything much more deeply, including feelings, thoughts, details, and physical sensations.
And in these noisy and jam-packed spaces, something is bound to go wrong.
For redditorMean-Proposal8s friend Jess, it was a curious kid who pushed her over the edge.
Unexpectedly, she stood up, insulted the child and his father, and walked out.
In return, Jess called her a bad friend and left.
Later on these pieces of information become triggers.
Triggers activate automatic stress responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.
I could also be triggered if I heard similar words or a similar tone of voice being used.
It is not possible to know exactly what will become a future trigger.
It often takes time to understand what triggers us and why.
Some triggers can be quite clear such as being triggered by driving after a bad car accident.
Others are not so obvious.
This becomes even more complex when someone has experienced multiple traumatic events, especially stemming in their childhood.
However friends advice to go back to therapy mightve been a very questionable move.
Often, people like to give advice or tell others what to do thinking this will fix their problem.
However, telling others what to do can be highly invalidating.
Instead, you might offer an observation of what you have been noticing as a way of checking in.
For example, I notice you seem stressed lately.
Pezo advises to stay calm and collected.
Human being are designed to co-regulate.
Your presence and the energy you bring often matters much more than saying the right thing.
Also remember, telling someone calm down has never once worked to calm someone down.
The best healing happens in relationships with other people.
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