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Some breakups dont have a definitive reason.
Sometimes you dont know why, but things simply arent working out.
Thats probably when the breakup hurts the most.
Although insignificant, this might be one comforting aspect for the OP of this story.
The person asked other netizens on the AITAH subreddit whether it was rude to leave aNew Years Evedinner.
The boyfriend and his family turned out to be flaming racists.
Dr. Williams was kind enough to tell us more about coping with the stress of racism and racial trauma.
Read her expert insights below.
In an article onher blog, Dr. Monnica describes a similar case from one of her graduate students.
A young woman named Amy experienced her boyfriend and his family assaulting her with racial slurs.
After their breakup, Amy became depressed.
She lost academic motivation.
She started developing anxiety, insomnia, and having low self-esteem.
Upon seeing items that reminded her of the relationship, she had panic attacks.
Her therapist determined that she was experiencing symptoms of PTSD as a result of racial trauma.
Dr. Monnica writes that racial trauma happens due to experiences of racism.
These experiences range from workplace discrimination or hate crimes to everyday discrimination and microaggressions.
How did Amy get better?
Her therapist used UnRESTS, a clinician-administered, semi-structured interview.
Dr. Monnica concludes that the person was right to leave.
That is the best possible self-care, she says.
Racism is abuse, and no one should be forced to endure abusive speech.
We already know from the OPs update that the relationship ended.
The boyfriend should know how he made his significant other feel.
Check out the results:
