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How people raise their kids is up to them, within reason.
Anything else is overstepping boundaries.
For one grandma, though, shes worried about how her son and daughter-in-law are bringing up her grandchildren.
Her first complaint is her granddaughters diet.
OP says shes never known kids to be on restrictivedietsunless necessary.
Next up, OP notes her granddaughters packed schedules.
OP says that whenever she sees the 3-year-old, shesexhausted.
Parents dont have to commit to one style its natural to use different styles in different situations.
Permissive parents pride themselves on being their childs best friend.
Theyre warm and nurturing and employ open communication at all times.
Theyre also actively involved in their childrens emotional well-being, have low expectations and use discipline sparingly.
Finally, neglectful parents meet the childs basic needs but pay very little attention to them.
They tend to offer little nurturing and have very few expectations or limitations for their child.
That effect appeared to be offset, however, by the child experiencing emotional warmth from the other parent.
They seem to stem more from differences in parenting styles.
Children dont come with instruction manuals, and theres no one correct way to parent.
From whats been described, it sounds like the childrens basic needs are being mettheyre not neglected or mistreated.
We asked Dr. Zeltser for one piece of advice shed offer the grandmother going forward.
By concentrating too much on her concerns, she may be missing or downplaying the positivesa common cognitive distortion.
For instance, the OP mentioned that her grandchildren are among the best-behaved children she has ever encountered.
If the opposite were true and they were poorly behaved, its likely shed have different concerns altogether.
After all, she no longer has to be the one doing the disciplining!
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