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Usually, when a person decides to be childfree, its after a lot of careful consideration.
Folks choose thislifestylebecause they dont like the idea of being parents or dont feel comfortable looking after children.
Either way, its a conscious choice that should be respected.
They just knew they didnt want to babysit!
They had always got on fine with each other and hung out as often as possible.
That was until one of theirfriendsbecame pregnant and decided to have the baby.
She didnt stop to consider that they were uncomfortable and didnt want to do that.
She is also the author of the bookMoney For Change.
We also reached out to Merle Bombarderi for her thoughts on this situation.
Merle is a coach and psychotherapist with an international coaching practice.
Merle said that childfree people are not morally obligated to provide friends who are parents with childcare.
However, they are not obliged to meet their friends childcare needs.
It seems like she assumed her group would help her withparentingduties despite their disdain for the entire idea.
She kept pushing their boundaries again and again.
Kara said, I think its important to remember that childfree people are just regular people!
So they can help with cleaning,cooking, babysitting, really anything.
Ultimately, it comes down to communication and flexibility to keep a friendship going for all of us.
Children only highlight the importance of these skills, she explained.
Merle Bombarderi also mentioned that childfree people can provide support without doing activities that they are not comfortable with.
The OP mentioned that she felt guilty about not wanting to babysit for her friend.
It does seem like the mom-friend did not appreciate that either.
Thats why Kara explained that child-rearing does take a village, but you have to nurture your village.
Folks sided with the poster and felt that her friend was being ridiculous
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