Especially if theres a considerable inheritance that they left.
Something of the sort happened to this woman.
After the death of her estranged mother,this Redditordiscovered that the woman had a considerable estate.
All would have been good and well if not for distant cousins, who started demanding their share.
The Redditor shared her story with fellow netizens to see what they made out of this entitled behavior.
This is exactly what happened in OPs case.
She describes how the court split the inheritance between her and her two siblings.
Everything seems to be good and dandy, doesnt it?
Well, then enter the cousins who claimed the mother owed them money.
Technically, they could sue.
But, the author writes that the cousins cases got dismissed because there were no contracts in place.
However, sometimes, people can venture to prove the debt inother ways.
People can make a run at present witnesses as proof that they lent money.
If there was a person present when the loaning took place, the court might treat that as evidence.
Even if it was a verbal agreement, some paperwork might have left a trail behind.
There might be bank statements showing transfers or cheques to the persons bank account.
In short, it seems that the relationship was incredibly toxic.
The Redditor acknowledges that her mother had mental issues from years and years of various forms of abuse.
So its no surprise that theres little sentimentality in her post about the mothers death.
A psychologist specializing in complex relationships and codependency, Dr. Brittany McGeehan, spoke about this withPop Sugar.
Estrangement with your mother can feel like dying.
It can also feel like being born again.
It can feel like rage, and it can feel like a relief.
The relationship between a mother and her child is often called the most important in our lives.
So, grieving a mother can thus be especially difficult.
That process is even more complex when the relationship is distant.
Dr. McGeehan explains it by likening the dead parent to a ghost.
Youre grieving the reality and the fantasy all at once; that you didnt have the mother you deserved.
The American Academy of Bereavement explains it in similar terms.
According to them, we grieve not so much the person but the relationship that we never had.
At the same time, there might be a lot of regret left after an estranged parents death.
Other people, on the other hand, might feel relief.
Experts recommend not to shy away from this emotion, even if it feels deviant.
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