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Youve heard of the work best friend, and unfortunately, many of us have awork nemesisas well.
But what about the workspouse?
Most people use that phrase without giving it a thought, he toldBored Panda.
And for many, it isnt an issue.
But the term blurs the boundary between work and intimate life.
It creates the expectation of emotional intimacy that is beyond the tasks of work.
Why not simply say, co-worker, or colleague?
Because it infers a greater level of connection.
But looking through without permission is always problematic.
Now, it is compounded by an actual betrayal of trust.
If you have concerns about communication between a spouse and someone else, asking to see it is fair.
They can refuse to, which can lead to a conversation about why the refusal?
It may be they would be uncomfortable with their spouse seeing the actual communication.
It may also be they are simply feeling their privacy is being invaded.
The focus is suddenly about the invasion of privacy and the sense of betrayal, he explained.
A concern can be a reflection on the spouses actions.
It can be a reflection of someones own insecurities.
And itcan be a reflection of both, Dr. Baucom says.
But you cant figure that out without talking it through.
You cant make a spouse follow your expectations.
you might, though, come to an agreement about how both will protect the relationship.
What needs to happen for both to feel safe, and each to protect the marriage?
Thats a great conversation.
One that is best had at the beginning, Dr. Baucom shared.
But if not then, when there is a concern.
The marriage expert also noted that we all have blind spots in relationships.
Maybe one person is missing the actual threat… until it is too late.
And can help both partners feel safe.
