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Datingisnt exactly like riding a bike.

Thats why one man recentlyreached outto Reddit after his date asked him to pay for the babysitter she hired.

Below, youll find the full story, as well as a conversation with Relationship and Communication ExpertCheryl Besner.

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And nearly half said thatdatinghas become more challenging for the majority of people over the past decade.

So its no surprise that finding love can be even more complicated for single parents.

Not everyone is positive about the future, though.

A man and woman walking in a park, engaging in a conversation, with trees in the background.

And the reality is that dating as a parent can be tough.

To learn more about this, we got in touch withRelationship and Communication ExpertCheryl Besner.

She was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandaand discuss how dating is different for parents.

Man confused after date demands payment for babysitter, text on gray background.

It has to then become a conscious effort to carve time into their life to date.

And couple time is often spent at the end of a night when the children have gone to sleep.

This does not exist anymore as they enter the dating world.

Text message recounting a date with babysitter payment confusion.

Cheryl says another difference is parents have to consider how their kids will react to them dating.

But there are ways parents can make dating more accessible.

For example, single parents can build a online grid of babysitters amongst themselves, she pointed out.

Text conversation about a date at a Greek restaurant and bar; confusion over paying for a babysitter.

Then I think at that point, it can be a discussion with the other individual.

I called it dating yourself, an important part of self-care.

If you set that up, you automatically have time to date when when the time comes.

Text about a successful date, with a mention of walking her home and kissing goodbye.

Cheryl pointed out that another important aspect of single parenting and dating is when to introduce the children.

However, this can lead to too many introductions to too many potential individuals.

I have met and interviewed many people who have had a revolving door of people meet their children.

Text exchange about date requesting money for babysitter, leaving guy confused about the situation.

A big distinction is understanding the difference of intention.

For example, is somebody entering the dating world just to have fun and date?

Or are they looking for a long term relationship?

Man looking confused while on a phone call, wrapped in a striped blanket, outdoors.

They learn from our example, she shared.

Check out the results:

Text excerpt discussing a date where a man feels paying for a babysitter is excessive.

Text about understanding that kids are part of pursuing a relationship, related to confusion over a babysitter demand.

Man puzzled by date asking him to pay babysitter, no prior agreement noted.

Text on a white background discussing dating concerns and asking for advice.

Text about a man’s date asking him to pay for her babysitter, leaving him confused.

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Comment discussing a date’s babysitter request as incredibly tacky, with 7.2k points.

Comment on a social media post: “Asking for babysitting money on a first date is crazy.

Comment on a post about a guy confused by a date’s demand regarding a babysitter.

Reddit comment discussing confusion over paying for a date’s babysitter, with advice against it.

Comment discusses confusion over date’s babysitter demand.

Reddit comment reading “HUGE RED FLAG” about paying for a babysitter on a date.

Reddit comment on date refusing to pay for babysitter, calling it outrageous and ridiculous.

Reddit comment expressing confusion over date requesting babysitter payment.

Text post about a confused guy whose date demands he pay for her babysitter, calling it tacky.

Comment discusses a date’s demand for babysitter payment, calling it inappropriate and advising against future dates.

User comment discussing date babysitter payment expectations.

Reddit comment mentions paying for a date’s babysitter as “not normal,” suggesting further demands.

User comment on paying for babysitter during a date, calling it a financial red flag.

Comment suggests babysitting date’s kid to earn 100 euros, related to confusion over paying for babysitter.

Reddit comment about not paying for a babysitter on a date as it’s not the guy’s responsibility.