Forthis redditor, it was aroommatethat would constantly borrow her belongings, from clothing and shoes, to makeup.
Think through what has worked well for you in the past and what hasnt worked well.
How do you divide utilities?
What are your quiet hours for sleep?
Boundaries make relationships work, the expert emphasized.
Think through the consequences that you would be willing to enforce if someone continues to violate your boundary.
Theyre also necessary for preventing emotional exhaustion and keeping you from becoming a doormat.
to make it verify that everyonesboundariesare clear, its crucial to communicate them properly.
Its a huge practice that will stay with you for the rest of your life, BalkstoldThe State News.
Learning more information about their perspective can help you with problem solving the situation, she said.
We have lots of great skills in Dialectical Behavior Therapy for addressing issues.
One [of them] is the DEAR a formula for asking for what you want.
Start by Describing the factsjust the facts, no opinionsto orient the other person to your perspective.
Express your emotions (how you feel about the situation).
Communicate the specific behaviors you are looking for.
This can be a quid pro quo, If you do the dishes, then I will vacuum.
Some people seemed to have dealt with similar roommates themselves
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