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Dating is messy.
Especially for the busy.
Continue scrolling to learn what happened and dont miss the chat we had with psychotherapistDr.
Erin Leonardthat should help make sense of the whole ordeal.
A few weeks ago, they set me up on a blind date.
They wouldnt stop talking about how perfect this girl was for me, so I thought, why not?
Emilys not super skinnyin fact, shes a little chubbybut honestly, I thought she was really cute.
The best part was how comfortable the date felt.
It wasnt like most dates where youre constantly trying to impress the other person.
Shes sweet, funny, and I had an amazing time with her.
By the end of the night, we exchanged numbers, and weve been texting pretty regularly since.
Turns out, my friends told her that they set us up as a prank.
Emily was obviously hurt and texted me, apologizing if she wasnt what I expected.
She said she understood if I didnt want to talk to her anymore.
I think shes beautiful.
To be honest, shes my new bang out.
I was furious when I found out what my friends had done.
I immediately apologized to Emily, telling her my friends were idiots and that I genuinely enjoyed our date.
I reassured her I wasnt texting her out of pity and that I thought she was awesome.
Now, my friends are pissed at me.
Theyre saying I ruined the joke and that Im being weird by asking her out again.
They even joked that Im only doing it because I feel bad, but thats not it at all.
I actually like Emily.
They keep saying its my autism and that I just dont get it.
However, the success rate doesnt sound good.
But this story is the perfect example of why people bother.
Even if three blind dates dont end well, you only lose one evening each time.
However, one fantastic blind date could more than make up for those three wasted evenings.
Unless, for instance, its supposed to be a prank.
It is a form of grooming.
They may also be extra nice because they want a minion.
They may have an ax to grind with someone else and wish to recruit you to their side.
According to the psychotherapist, narcissists also gaslight us.
They purposely take a stab at hurt you so you react emotionally.
Then they point to your escalated response and call you crazy.
Sometimes, we feel guilty about cutting ties with people even though they are toxic to us.
In these cases, Leonard advises getting emotional space through diplomacy.
Do not overtly sever the relationship, she suggested.
Simply spend a lot less time with these people and invest in healthier relationships.
At least the guy from Reddit weeded them out sooner rather than later.
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