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Maintaining a good relationship with your parents when youre an adult can be tricky.
Parents say they want the best for their children, but sometimes they can cross boundaries without realizing it.
Something similar happened to the OP here.
The user u/Short_Fig7734shared a storyof how they dealt with constant criticism from their parents.
One fateful birthday dinner was the breaking point for OP, the self-proclaimed nepo kid.
They decided to literally pay back the parents for all their hard work and investment.
You trust them to tell you whats right and whats wrong and to guide you through lifes tough decisions.
Theyre like an omnipotent, omnipresent being in our lives that we look to for advice.
Psychologists say that parents who are critical of their children start doing it in their childrens childhood.
That applies not only to achievements in academic and professional life.
Psychotherapist Heather Garbutt toldStylistthat its rarely about you.
Its about their way of being rather than anything to do with you, she explained.
Psychologist Gwen Randall-Youngwritesthat parents might believe that even their adult children still need parenting.
It might come from a good place, but it results in low self-esteem, social anxiety, anddefensiveness.
It can also strongly impact our own adult relationships.
And, of course, there are those adult children who strive to hey their parents no matter what.
Its futile because those kinds of parents will most likely never be pleased.
Its important to enforce this set boundary and follow through.
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