Family members should have each others backs, but not at the price of their own lives and futures.

This family expected their youngest to help her sister and husband take care of thebaby twins.

Thats why shewent online to askpeople whether she should stand her ground or compromise and help her family out.

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A 20 Y.O.

Sometimes, however, you find out that its not true.

In aprevious interviewforBored Panda,Haley Neidich, LCSW, explained that lesser-favored children often have self-esteem issues.

Woman on couch holding two sleeping babies, relaxing and babysitting.

The OP feels like she owes her older sister no favors because she feels resentment from childhood.

And thats according to Neidich, a pretty common thing, too.

Although usually the oldest siblings get parentified, it can happen to younger siblings, too.

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However, in this particular situation, the OPs parents are still treating her like a child.

The OP is still a student, pursuing higher education and trying to form her own identity.

Imi Lo previously told us that the needs ofparentified childrenoften end up being subordinated to those of the family.

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People sided with the young woman and urged her to set clear boundaries

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