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Losing someone is a terrible experience, but it is also an inevitable part of life.
How a person deals with it, just like with everything else in life, depends on each individual.
Some can work through it more easily, while others struggle for years.
The parents of todays original poster (OP) fall into the latter category.
Their daughter died 18 years ago, and ever since, theyve dedicated their lives to honoring her.
Things got so out of hand that the OP noted that it seemed that he didnt matter at all.
Sadly, the parents never recovered from this loss.
The authors whole childhood was spent in the shadow of this loss.
These words were never natural, as the boy didnt even properly know his sister.
Creepy, isnt it?
This wasnt the only photo they were hung in every room, even the bathroom.
Plus, they didnt even let the boy take down the photo in his room.
Bored Pandasinterviewee certified EMDR therapistKhalida Himestold us thatstheres anillnesscalled prolonged grief disorder (or complicated grief).
Around 7-10% of adults experience these symptoms.
To get better from such a condition, a person can seek help.
In fact, theres a whole key in oftherapydedicated to dealing with complicated grief.
During it, the person works on their self-determination, emotion regulation processes, relationships, and so on.
Theres alsoEMDRtherapy and our interviewee is an expert of it.
Its a method of processing traumatic memories by moving eyes in a specific way.
Even in prolonged grief cases.
It can help with negative memories and emotions by processing them in a more healthy and adaptive manner.
So, quite an interesting dynamic.
His late sister haunted his whole childhood, and he wanted to be rid of thisghostin his dorm.
This made the parents furious.
If not for his own sake, then for his parents.
So, to get perspective from the outside, he came to Reddit.
Here, people said without a doubt he wasnt a jerk in this situation.
The parents have unresolved issues with their grief, which theyre putting on their son.
They felt sorry for the teen, as growing up in such conditions must have been hard.
After all,getting distancefrom a relationship that brings dysfunction into your life is healthy.
Especially when a party that needs help doesnt get it.
So, lets hope he will.
His parents are basically swallowed by their grief.
Letting his life be swallowed as well doesnt seem like a great idea.
Hopefully, one day his folks will get help and theyll be able to mend the relationship.
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