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Keeping the fire burning in a long-termrelationshipor marriage is not always easy.
Especially when there are kids involved and both parents are juggling work and family commitments.
One studyfoundthat alack of emotional connection is the reason 41% of relationships end.
Partners purely drift apart over time and dont ever resolve their issues.
A heartbroken wife has shared how her husband of more than 9 years disappointed her on their recent anniversary.
The husband flat-out told her his mom was too busy.
When the anniversary rolled around, the man went on a date with his mother.
Plenty of people turn to her for relationship advice.
She told Bored Panda that love and passion change throughout the course of a relationship.
She says that often, its about keeping emotional closeness alive through small, intentional gestures.
Its less about grand gestures and more about consistent, everyday effort, she said.
Love, over time, will change shape, Mathur tells Bored Panda.
Sometimes keeping love alive means choosing each other again, even when it would be easier to drift apart.
Sometimes, couples arent even aware that theyre growing apart and not together until its too late.
One studyfoundthat 41% of relationships end because of emotional distance.
ProfessorAmber Vennumis an expert in the field ofcoupleandfamilytherapy.
Even when the demands of work andparentingseem overwhelming.
Relationships need to be prioritized enough to still feel connected and valued by each other.
Getting creative about when and how you spend time with each other has hidden benefits.
Trying out activities that neither of you have yet done can help to bring you closer.
It can also lead to personal growth and, perhaps best of all, laughter.
Mathurs advice for when things get tough is for couples to communicate.
Start by naming it, gently and without blame.
Use I feel statements rather than you make me feel X..
The psychotherapist says you could begin with something like, I miss you.
Sometimes that one phrase can open a door, Mathur revealed.
And when is it time to throw the towel in on the relationship?
Vennum says its different for each person.
This is such a personal decision, she told Bored Panda.
However, Mathur says many relationships go through painful seasons and can still repair and strengthen.
The question is not just am I unhappy?
But is there the willingness and capacity on both sides to work toward change?'
People came forward with advice for the wife, with some suggesting a divorce
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