And for this bride, it was almost perfectexcept for one small hiccup.
Her teenage niece turned up wearing a white dress.
What seemed like a simple solution, however, sparked a whole new family drama.
This isnt just tradition; its a fundamental rule of wedding etiquette.
The bride wears whitethis is her day, and the grooms, of course.
Guests do not want to steal an inch of her spotlight, Hayes explained.
White panelling on a dress, for instance, is absolutely acceptable.
However, in this case, the nieces choice of an all-white dress was clearly a misstep.
Surely she knew about the dont wear white to a wedding rule, Hayes remarked.
In cultures where its a rule, its widely knowneven among teenagers.
Given that shes a teenager, I find this a little difficult to believe.
If they knew what she was planning to wear, someone should have intervened, she noted.
That way, it could be a collaborative approach, hopefully satisfying for everyone.
Hayes reassured that the bride would still have the right to move forward with her decision.
If the niece doesnt agree, so be it.
Id advise the niece to offer grace and acquiesce to her aunts desires in this instance.
For the bride, Hayes offered a valuable perspective: Hold this situation very loosely.
In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal.
Its in holding things, situations, people, and expectations too tightly that causes human misery.
Dont let this small annoyance ruin what was, Im sure, a beautiful occasion.
Focus on the joy of marrying thelove of your lifechoose joy, and keep choosing it.
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