This is the exact emotional tightrope todays Original Poster (OP) found herself walking.

But is it really favoritism, or just geography playing dirty?

Despite the distance, the daughter often expressed gratitude for their bond.

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The OPs younger daughter, on the other hand, chose a path closer to home.

According to Madondo, the mothers situation reveals underlying family dynamics that can often lead to feelings of resentment.

Madondo suggested, Using I statements to express feelings is crucial to avoid placing blame or pointing fingers.

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She emphasized the importance of showing affection and validating the childs emotions while acknowledging ones own limitations.

I recommend affirming them, even if physical presence isnt always possible, she added.

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