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Gender equality might have come a long way, but were still not there yet.
Now shes torn between her career and her family and has turned to Mumsnet for advice.
It would appear that OPs husband is subscribing to restrictive gender norms.
Does he think his career is more important than OPs?
Most of this work had always fallen on women.
When men genuinely enact equal partnership at home, it accelerates gender equality at work in three ways.
Bored Pandareached out to psychologistDr.
Deborah Heckerto get her take on the situation.
Giving her husband anultimatumis counterproductive to achieving herdesire for a more egalitarian relationship.
In fact, it will weaken the marriage by building resentment and making him feel controlled.
Hecker adds that the solution is not for OP to quit her meaningful work.
Instead, she and her husband must have many honest and open conversations about their respective needs.
A great marriage is based on mutual understanding, friendship and respect.
Theirs seem to be lacking in all three.
If they cannot resolve their differences, I suggest they consult a marriage counselor., says Hecker.
We also asked Dr. Hecker for one piece of advice shed offer OP.
She says, Theirs is arelationshipproblem, not awifeproblem.
I encourage thembothto rethink their definition of marriage / partnership.
They need to stop arguing about who does what, as well as stop discussing his obsession with money.
This requires ongoing negotiation.
If they can do this, it will be well worth it.
Check out the results:
