The friends mom dismissed her, calling the tiny dress an aspirational goal.

The OP, however, didnt let it slide.

The mom then accused the OP of holding her daughter back from growing up.

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She implied that the daughter was falling behind socially and blamed her lack ofboyfriendson the OPs parenting style.

However, the best friends mother did not take the boundary well.

They may start scrutinizing their flaws, comparing themselves to others, and obsessing over beauty standards.

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She also emphasized that it is important to notice how children feel after spending time at a friends place.

Do they express some kind of discomfort or distress?

First, normalize that its okay to go at your own pace and enjoy what you enjoy.

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Talk openly about the pressure they might face and validate their feelings, she recommended.

Parents should also model healthy boundaries, while ensuring the home remains a safe, supportive environment.

What do you think about this situation?

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Is it ever appropriate for another adult to comment on a teens body or size, aspirational or not?

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