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One part ofbeing a parentis arranging playdates with your kids friends.
Its not always easy; parents dont always make friends as easily as kids do.
Still, around 43% of parentssayyes to playdates when they stay themselves.
And only 22% let their kids go toplaydatesalone.
This woman, however, didnt let the mom know her daughter was coming over for a playdate.
When the girl came to her during pick-up at school, she was mildly surprised.
But people pleasing is rarely a good thing.
This is one of the advantages of learning to say no, as experts say that it minimizes regret.
But thats not the only advantage of learning to say no.
It also demonstrates that you know how to set clear boundaries.
Saying no when people keep taking your help for granted lets them know how you expect to be treated.
Saying no politely is almost an art form.
You have to be assertive, but respectful.
You have to express gratitude but know how to let them down gently.
Jonathan Hermida, PCC,recommendsbeing straightforward and offering a short, simple explanation.
The more often you say no, the easier it becomes, he points out.
Practice assertiveness in all areas of your life until the new habit feels familiar.
However, as a parent, you might not want to organize playdates with every parent that you meet.
So, how do you politely decline a playdate invitation?
International Nanny Association credentialed nanny Michelle LaRowe Conoverwritesthat offering a reasonable excuse might help.
Say that youre busy at that time, but dont mention anything about a rain check.
The last thing you want is for the other parents to think: Maybe another time.
Wanting to spend more time as a family is always a good excuse.
Lying about why you dont want to attend a playdate, according to her, never plays out well.
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