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Whether or not to help distantrelativesin need is a tough dilemma.

On the one hand, being charitable is a virtue.

On the other hand, not everyone who says theyre struggling may actually be struggling.

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Redditor u/Professional-Cry1342 turned to the internet foradviceregarding an incrediblysensitivefamily matter.

However, the author refused to give in to these manipulations.

Scroll down for the full story and the internets reactions.

Woman in a thoughtful pose, wearing a camouflage shirt, considering rent help for dad’s ex-wife and son.

Youll find our interview with her below.

According to the author of the post, nobody should make other adults their own responsibility.

There is one upside to this entire situation, though.

Text screenshot discussing a dad’s ex-wife and son needing rent help; daughter contemplates if refusal makes her a jerk.

No matter what, keep in mind that youre not obligated to rescue your loved ones from poor decisions.

In some cases, saying no may help them develop better financial habits.

This may be far more valuable than cash in the long run.

Text discussing family dynamics and a lack of close relationships.

Furthermore, its vital that you meet your own financial needs.

You should not sacrifice your own stability just to be charitable.

If you arent meeting your own needs, you may end up needing help yourself.

Text about financial struggles and saving for brother’s future, related to a situation involving dad’s ex-wife and son.

Strong boundaries are what help you maintain healthyrelationships.

You might think theyre unnecessary in a family context, but thats not quite right.

Be direct but diplomatic.

Text discussing dad’s ex-wife, money, and son’s expenses after dad’s passing.

Get on the same page.

Though it might be awkward, state the consequences that will happen if they continue with their behavior.

You are not responsible for fixing another adults mess-ups.

Text about financial struggles of dad’s ex-wife and son, with aunt paying rent for 3.5 years despite ex-wife’s pension.

A good rule of thumb is to live below your means and spend less than you earn.

Or, to flip this upside down, your spending has to be lower than what you earn.

Many people were shocked by the situation.

Text discussing a dad’s ex-wife asking for rent assistance due to financial struggles.

Check out the results:

Text expressing conflict about rent responsibility for dad’s ex-wife, already helping brother.

A contemplative older woman sitting on a sofa, wearing earrings and a watch, in a bright room.

Text message about refusing help with rent to dad’s ex-wife and son.

Text expressing refusal to take financial responsibility for dad’s ex-wife and son, focusing on brother’s well-being.

Text discussing strained relationship with dad’s ex-wife and financial support dilemma.

Text questioning refusal to help dad’s ex-wife and son with rent amidst struggles.

Hands using calculator on a desk with a cup, discussing rent payment issues.

Young woman with glasses and braided hair, contemplating a decision about family and rent.

Empty room with moving boxes and mirror, symbolizing rent payment struggles involving dad’s ex-wife and son.

Text conversation about dad’s ex-wife and son asking for rent help; daughter considers refusal.

Text discussing advice on managing payments and contact with a stepbrother; involves dad’s ex-wife and rent concerns.

Text conversation about dad’s ex-wife asking daughter for rent help, daughter declines.

Reddit comments discussing family dynamics and financial struggles involving a dad’s ex-wife and son.

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Online forum discussion about dad’s ex-wife and son seeking help, involving debts and refusal to pay, mentioning a will.

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Text discussion about refusing rent help for dad’s ex-wife and son, focusing on financial responsibility and support options.

Online forum response about dad’s ex-wife and son’s financial situation.

Comment on refusing to help pay rent, calling dad’s ex manipulative and selfish.

Comment discussing refusal to pay rent with dad’s ex-wife and son, suggesting they find cheaper housing options.

Online comment questioning family relationship dynamics and suggesting possible financial exploitation.

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Comment discussing family dynamics and rent assistance, suggesting better sibling support.

Comment discussing social security benefits for dad’s ex-wife and son.

Comment advising not to help with rent, suggesting enough support has been given.

Comment advising daughter on dad’s ex-wife and son’s rent request, suggesting no obligation due to existing financial help.

Comment discussing responsibility and financial support between half-siblings and stepmother.

Reddit comment discussing rent help involving dad’s ex-wife, son, and daughter.

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Comment offering advice on helping dad’s ex-wife and son with rent, discussing financial balance and support options.

Comment on Reddit about refusing help to dad’s ex-wife and son for rent.

Reddit comment on rent help dilemma, user suggests possible manipulation and supports daughter’s choice.

Reddit comment discussing whether to help dad’s ex-wife and son with rent responsibility.

Comment discussing dad’s ex-wife and son asking for rent help, with advice to create a trust for the brother.

Comment advising against helping dad’s ex-wife and son with rent, supporting daughter’s decision.

Reddit comment expressing concern about dad’s ex-wife and son’s situation.

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Online comment discussing responsibilities of dad’s ex-wife and son regarding rent assistance.

Woman in green sweater, gesturing while talking about family issues related to dad’s ex-wife and son asking for help with rent.

Text about someone’s decision on family support, mentioning Middle Eastern and European context, brother, and mom’s struggles.

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Text discussing refusal to help dad’s ex-wife financially due to her spending habits.

Text about visa complications and living arrangements, related to dad’s ex-wife and son’s rent help request.

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Text message about refusing to help pay rent, emphasizing financial responsibility.

Text message about rent and responsibility involving dad’s ex-wife and son.

Text discussing support for brother, considering giving a debit card, related to dad’s ex-wife and son needing rent help.

Text about a person moving out of an apartment by month-end, reflecting a family rent disagreement.