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Parents andgrandparentscan have different expectations when it comes to the gender of a baby.
Some may want a girl, while others might be more keen on having a boy.
But most parents would probably say that the most important thing is that the child is healthy and well.
Not the mother-in-law inthis recently shared story, though.
She wanted a grandson so badly that she had the gall to insult herpregnant DILin a particularly vile way.
The author of this post was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandawhen we reached out.
Read our conversation with the pregnant mother below!
u/Worried_Analysis_838 kindly agreed to tell us more details about the relationship between her and her mother-in-law.
Even with the MIL out of the picture, theyoung familyhas a support internet they can rely on.
My mom and dad adore my fiance and treat him like one of their own.
The young mother has some advice for people who might be dealing with difficult in-laws, too.
She says its best to shut down the crazy before it turns into psycho.
In other words, setting boundaries.
Setting clear boundaries and enforcing them makes a huge difference when it comes to overbearing in-laws.
Similarly, the same goes for grandparents.
The phenomenon when a parent or grandparent might not be happy with a babys gender is calledgender disappointment.
Reproductive and Perinatal Health Psychologist Shara Brofman, PsyD, explained toHappiest Babythat its quite a common occurrence.
People may feel gender disappointment because of familial or cultural pressures.
Others might want to replicate a parent-child relationship they had with their parent or vice versa.
Some parents-to-be or grandparents might worry they wont connect to the baby if theyre a certain gender.
Whatever the reason, these kinds of feelings are valid.
Its actually quite normal to have disappointment, and that might manifest in a variety of ways.
It just so happens that gender disappointment is a particularly powerful one.
The term gender refers to socially constructed and learned traits and behaviors.
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