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Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries!
Theyre ever so important.
Like basichygieneand peoples privacy, for example.
Sherevealedthat she had to prohibit her MIL from using the pool because she hadnt showered in weeks.
Whats more, she couldnt be trusted in the house alone without supervision.
Read on for the full story and to see what advice various internet users gave the distressed author.
Its common sense to shower before you go swimming in the pool.
Unfortunately, it gets a lot worse.
The author of the viral story implied that her MIL doesnt care about her and her husbands privacy.
Whats more, she is actively malicious.
Broaching topics like hygiene and showering with your loved ones can be challenging.
Not to mention awkward.
But theyre a necessity if the persons inability to care for themselves affects you.
Some people simply lack the self-awareness to recognize that their behavior is problematic: theyre blind to the issue.
Others might be aware of the problem but think that theyre in the right, no matter what.
Were talking about grownups, not teenagers, and they should know better.
Yet, here we are.
Ignoring issues wont magically make things better.
Avoiding the problem can lead to further issues down the line.
Moreover, it can negatively affect the entire relationship.
If subtle hints dont do the trick, you might always try putting your words on paper.
Write the other person a note.
Be as gentle and diplomatic as you’re able to.
But dont shy away from alluding to the problem either.
In this case, the other person will either make the necessary adjustments.
Or theyll end up having a conversation about the issue with you.
Again, its entirely possible that the person isnt aware that they have problematic hygiene.
You want to use lots of I statements about how their behavioraffects youand makes you feel.
The less defensive they get, the more open theyll be to change and compromise.
And if theyre not, well, youll end up having to reevaluate your relationship with the person.
Maybe spending less time around them is the right decision.
At least for a little while.
That, in turn, allows the chlorine in the water to more effectively keep the pool clean.
Its also important to shower after your swim!
Many internet users rushed to share their thoughts on the tense situation.
Heres their take on what needs to be done
Thanks!
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