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A wedding day is an important event in a womans life, even in this age.
Brides usually have a vision of what that day should look like.
The color of the bridesmaids dresses and what flowers will decorate the venue can be elements of that vision.
But rude in-laws can derail even the best of plans.
A woman shared her woes about an ex-monster-in-law on ther/WeddingShamingsubreddit.
The MIL decided to make some unwelcome changes before the wedding day.
The author shamed her mother-in-law for taking advantage of the fact that they share the same name.
Read on to find out why the bride now calls her former MIL a C-Rex.
Read her update about her divorce party and advice about monster-in-laws below!
Id have grown a spine and fully rejected any ideas, she told us via a message.
I would not have entertained them in the least.
If their family acts up, have them stand up to them as well.
I think, knowing her, she would have done something, even if I had stood my ground.
And likely, my ex would have taken sides with his mom.
This is a RED flag.
My divorce was finalized in May.
Here is some advice for brides who feel their mothers-in-law might mess with their vision.
Jeannie Assimos tellsBridesthat its important to pick your battles.
An argument with your future husbands mother wont help anyone.
Thats why its crucial to understand why the advice or unwanted help is so bothersome.
If you dont like the advice because youre feeling tense or not in the mood, dont lash out.
When the advice hinders your vision of your perfect day, its fair to stand up for yourself.
Go ahead and talk to them openly about how you are feeling, Assimos suggests.
When having this conversation, the right tone is important.
Etiquette advice columnist Cheryl Seidesuggestsgoing over whats important to each person.
Understand the why of her opinions.
Communicate your wedding day vision and which aspects are most critical to you and why.
Then be willing to compromise on a few items that you’re able to let go.
She will feel more comfortable that you have the planning under control, Seide adds.
This last piece of advice might be a bit hard to swallow.
Especially if your MIL is a monster-in-law.
You might want to find something that you want your mother-in-laws opinion on.
Mothers and MILs might just want to take part in the planning in some way.
A good strategy is to involve your MIL in ways that are a win-win.
When she asks if you need help, treat her with kindness, Rothweiler adds.
Etiquette expert Elaine Swannproposesletting the MIL take care of the guest list.
Especially when dealing with the grooms side of the family.
That way youll avoid having a bunch of second cousins and her office buddies at your reception.
One decision that might be significant to the MIL might be the parent dances.
Chances are, there is a song that was special to the two of them growing up.
