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Weddingsare all about love and celebration, of course.
But Jhona says the level of upset varies.
Some parents accept their advisory role and respect boundaries, she noted.
Others treat wedding decisions like a hostile corporate takeover.
The emotions behind it usually boil down to control, nostalgia, and a little bit of FOMO.
They want to feel needed.
The bride ended up eloping.
So yeah, parental involvement can be a slippery slope.
Yes, but it requires strategy, Jhona says.
Think of it like giving a toddler a fake steering wheel in the backseat.
They feel like theyre driving, but theyre not actually in control.
Here are some of Jhonas tried and true tricks: Give them a project with clear limits.
Something like assembling welcome bags or choosing a small element of decor.
Bonus points if its something they care about but wont derail the aesthetic, she shared.
Maybe a special menu tasting or a pre-wedding family dinner where they can feel important without influencing key decisions.
And remember to phrase things carefully.
That way, they feel chosen, not sidelined, Jhona suggests.
First, recognize the difference between helping and taking over.
If the couple says, Weve got this covered, believe them, Jhona told Bored Panda.
Theyre not rejecting youtheyre just creating a wedding that reflects them.
Second, ask yourself: Is this about the couple, or is this about me?
A wedding should never become a battleground for unresolved family drama, she continued.
And finally, if you must intervene, do it with style.
Sneaking in a budget cake swap is just tacky, the expert says.
In the end, weddings arent about control, Jhona added.
Theyre about love, support, and a really, really good cake.
The kind that the couple actually picked.
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