Visiting them for a weekend?

Going on a weeklong vacation?

Living together for the foreseeable future?

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No, thank you.

What will I have to relinquish if I respect your position in the family?

and Will I retain my importance if I acknowledge yours?

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There can also be contradicting traditions, which can create tension when under the same roof.

Open communication was the route that the OP took when talking to her husband about his mothers visit.

The OP opened up about how that went in the two updates she shared after the initial post.

Text about mother-in-law’s unexpected extended stay and family dynamics.

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Text discussing mother-in-law planning to stay for two years; reality check on expected visit duration.

Text discussing a mother-in-law’s extended visit expectations and visa application details.

Visa discussion about a mother-in-law’s extended stay, focusing on retirement and a 2-year visit option.

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Text conversation about mother-in-law’s unexpected extended stay plans.

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Text discussing fairness of parents' visits, with a son’s perspective on in-law expectations.

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Text exchange about a mother-in-law’s extended stay, leading to tension between her son and his partner.

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Reddit discussion on mother-in-law expecting extended stay. Concerns about husband’s plans for her permanent residence.

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Text explaining that there’s no two-year visitor visa to Canada, only a five-year supervisa.

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Text exchange discussing staying with son and communication improvements.

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Text exchange about MIL’s extended stay, discussing boundaries and feedback.

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Text advice about communicating with MIL regarding child’s future decisions.

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Text exchange about MIL staying long-term unexpectedly with son, causing tension.

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Text conversation about MIL’s extended stay and family dynamics in Canada.

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Text excerpt discussing expectations and adjustments for MIL’s visit, changing from 2 years to 30 days.

Text conversation about MIL stay expectation, discussing changes from two years to one month.

Discussion on setting boundaries with MIL during her extended stay; emphasizes respect and personal space.

Reddit comment expressing frustration about a mother-in-law’s extended visit plan.

Discussion on preparing escape plans and privacy measures for staying with MIL.

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Discussion about MIL’s extended stay, sharing concerns and potential solutions.

Text discussing in-laws staying permanently due to visa issues and suggestions for handling the situation discreetly.

Text comment about MIL’s extended stay, supporting a 30-day visit limit.

Comment on MIL overstaying her visit and family concerns about her extended stay.

Text advising precautions for mother-in-law’s extended stay, including privacy and consent boundaries.

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